Every other day when we look through certain newspapers all we see are indecently dressed young girls, older girls, women and yes men too, though they (the men) easily get away with certain things…they don’t have thaaaaat much to show… Anyway, so this got me wondering why some girls feel the need to dress trashy…..why they have it in their minds that the more body parts they expose, the more attractive they look / become….me thinks that really isn’t the case; so maybe the guys will find you attractive, but that will probably be for a few hours and probably because they will be a little drunk…but then again, I’m not a guy, never been inside a guy’s mind so I don’t really know how they reason…
And no, this is not in any way siding with the ‘Anti Mini-Skirt’ campaign…..I love my little skirts and dresses but of course little is relative; my definition of mini might be someone else’s maxi, plus my curves are not as ‘defined’ as other people’s so I’m sort of an exception….This is instead an “Anti Trashy-Dressing” campaign.
Through the earlier years of high school, each time we reported for a new term, our luggage would be checked and we were allowed to have only 5 clothes..or was it 7….my memory is quite rusty but what I remember for a fact is that, right in front of your parent and the teacher in charge of inspection, you’d get your skirts / dresses out of the suitcase, and measure each against yourself and the teacher would only let you keep it if it was a ‘good’ length…and that was at the knee and below.. of course we felt tortured but those are some of the things that shaped us. We sewed our own uniforms in senior 1 and even those, to let you start wearing it, it had to pass the ‘right length test’ first, among other things.
I happened to read an extract from Hana Ali’s book: More Than a Hero: Muhammad Ali’s Life Lessons through His Daughter’s Eyes; and in there she narrates something that her father, Muhammad Ali once told her vis-à-vis decent dressing. She writes…
“When we finally arrived, the chauffer escorted my youngest sister, Laila, and me to my father’s suite. As usual, he was hiding behind the door waiting to scare us. We exchanged hugs and kisses as we could possibly give in one day.
My father took a good look at us. Then he sat me down in his lap and said something I will never forget. He looked me straight in the eyes and said;
“Hanna, everything that God made Valuable and Precious in the world is covered and hard to get to. Where do you find Diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find Pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find Gold? Way down in the mine, covered over and protected by layers and layers of rock. You’ve got to work hard to get to them”.
He looked at me with seriousness in his eyes.
“Your body is sacred. You are far more precious and valuable than GOLD, DIAMONDS and PEARLS, and you should be covered too.”
At the end of the day, if you do not respect yourself enough to dress decent, nobody is going to respect you…and no, you don’t only have to cover up for work and church / mosque. You’ll be shocked when your next job interview is being conducted by someone you were trying so hard to impress in a certain bar in your big belt of a skirt and here you will be, trying to convince him how responsible and decent you are. Chances are, he will not buy it,,,yes, even if he found you ‘attractive’ in the bar…told you they’re usually drunk..ok.bye.
“We act the way we dress. Trashy clothes reflect a trashy mind.”
“Know first who you are. Then adorn yourself accordingly.” << What you wear automatically gives people a first impression of you. And depending on how un-lucky you might be, to some people, the first impression they get of you, might be the only one.
“Good clothes open good doors.”
“We were not conceived without sin…and no, our bodies don’t glow in the dark. They cannot last very long without food and water, cannot Jump 10 feet into the air or skip 30 feet. They can’t they pass through closed doors or be in two places at the same time. BUT, they are special. Apart from being fearfully and wonderfully made, our bodies belong to the Lord. This is what makes them special.”